I am the unreliable friend.
But I will continue to sprinkle bits of nothing into the world when inspired to do so.
The first floor house renovation is long complete. The touch-up items are on a growing to-do list. Things like a proper backsplash, re-painting (ugh, the greys I picked are so very blue), painting a few doors that we’re “included” in the total job, redoing the downstairs bathroom, a freaking whole house re-pipe… yah, that list will never end nor be completed.
We were quite sick in January. Some something made its way into the house. I am excessively doctor and hospital avoidant, so we treated it at home with OTC stuff and sleep. Lots and lots of sleep.
Our tattoo shop moved locations between December & January. Then we had massive permit drama for minor construction that should have been classified as furniture but wasn’t. Very long story short, we wound up closed for four months, hemorrhaging money we didn’t really have to spend, all with zero income from said shop. Yah, the emergency fund was there for what it’s for, but it’s been depleted and we’ve been leveraged up to our eyeballs.
Which leads to the husbands cancer diagnosis in May. We’ve hit the ground running. Appointment after appointment. He has done a lot on his own to keep me out of hospitals and all the germs they harbor, but I need to be there for some appointments, and I’ll be his transportation once treatment starts in earnest. We’re trying to get what the VA calls community care so that he can be seen closer to home (currently all appointments are in Miami, and we’re so far north in Broward it’s practically Palm Beach). An old friend (omg, our kids went to HACS together when they were maybe 3? Those kids are now pushing 25!) reminded me that is literally what they do and is helping facilitate that. So fingers crossed.
We’ve got a Go Fund Me (see side bar, or just click the link) due to the aforementioned draining of our savings and maxing of our credit. We did it right. We had the emergency fund. We had four freaking months worth of emergency fund. How fucked is it that we had two emergencies back to back? I know, I know, fair is for fairy tales, but damn I’d like to get a break. No, I’d like to get ahead. A break just lets you tread water till the next wave. I want to make progress and get ahead of/away from the damn wave.
To top it off, I realized yesterday my right side, and only my right side, feels like I pulled every muscle. Left side? Just fine. Right side? Sore. Tender. Hard to lift my arm or leg. The kicker? When we walk the dogs, I hold the leash in my left hand. I tend to be left-side dominant in general, so I have no idea what I may have done to the right side.
I am still using Kesimpta as my DMT. I am still on a small handful of other drugs and supplements. Better living through science! My MS is pretty stable, generally speaking, which mostly means old issues are still issues, but no new issues, so woot!
So, spam me with your cancer tips! It’s been a minute since I had to deal with cancer in the house. Nearly 20 years worth of minutes in fact. All we know so far is they don’t want to operate, they do want to treat with radiation 5 days a week for 6 weeks, and they are unsure if chemo will be necessary. The PETscan is next week and I suspect till dictate the actual course of treatment.